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So there I was, sitting at the computer minding my own business when all of a sudden……..WACK!  I get nailed in the back of the head by a crumpled up piece of white paper.  Since it was only 5:15 in the morning, I knew the only possible offender was Matthew. “Is there a problem, Matthew?” I ask.  Once I turn around in my chair, I see he has a stocking cap on and a big grin on his face.  “It’s snowball!”, he says happily. ” I want snowball fight!”

In his other hand are several pieces of white scrap paper.  Wow, what a creative thought!  But I wasn’t really wasn’t in the mood to throw crumpled up pieces of paper at my son at 5:15 on a Saturday morning.  So I said, “Matthew. I want to have a snowball fight with you, but  after I drink my coffee all gone. Please go find me a stocking cap.”  More than often, Matthew gets angry when he has to wait for things.  If I just tell him to “wait”, he will most likely become unglued because he has an agenda and I am changing plans.  Autism + Change  = watch out!  Or so it often does with my child.  But he needs to learn that life doesn’t always go the way we expect it to. 

 One of the tricks to avoid such potential meltdowns is to carefully choose the wording.  For example, if I just say “Matthew, wait and then I will play snowball fight with you.”  That most likely result in him kicking and screaming.  But if I say “Matthew, I will snowball fight with you after my coffee is all gone.”, that is a better response. He will then look in my coffee cup and see how much there is left for me to drink.  Now this isn’t always going to work but my odds are better when he has a visual instead of an open-ended “wait” time.  I believe as he matures, the visuals won’t be so imperative.  

So what if I can’t snowball fight right then?  Or what if I don’t want to?  I’m not afraid to say “no” to him. I will simply say “Matt, I am tired right now and I don’t feel like snowball fighting.  Go wake up daddy and ask him!” 😛


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